Just got back from Avon… Went to Paddy O’Days (the best burgers in Colorado) with Zeze, Jalen, and Flyn. The weather on the way up was a bit wintry, but it was fine on the way back down.
I discovered this week that my family moved from Colorado to Ohio back in July. I’ve been contemplating sending my mother a letter and discovering if Chris (my adopted father) has become any better to deal with in the last ten years. I’d like to open a dialog with her again, if only to find out how my sister is doing (haven’t spoke to her since ’86). There are a few photos on Chris’ web site that lead me to believe that my sister has two children and no mention of a father, which is a real shocker when the only memory I have of her was when she was nine. Chris has always been a stickler for ‘family line’ and as I’ve not produced grandchildren, I’m sure my sister has born the brunt of his desires as my ex and I did.
See, I joined the Navy when I was sixteen and my sister is seven years my younger – and I’ve not seen her since… It’s a long story, but my family and I don’t agree on much and Chris was always an example of everything I didn’t want to grow up to be; self-centered, childish, selfish… The last time I visited my mother he had a post it on the stereo which said “we do not touch things that are not ours” because I guess mom might touch it or something. Then, because I was there and taking the spotlight off of him, he took off in a huff and called my mother from a local bar stating for her to call him when I was gone…
Yeah, great guy.
I told my mother right there that she’d probably never hear from me again as I didn’t want to cause any issues – she said he’d get over it, but I don’t think he ever will.
Over the years I’ve surmised that there was a bit of a complication between my mother, the fellow she was married to when I was born, and Chris. I bear a remarkable resemblance to Chris and look nothing like the fellow who was on my birth cirtificate… Which kinda explains the divorce, remarry, and adoption.
But I’ve not really put any effort into ferreting this out.
Anywho, that’s the update for today. Have a good weekend and I’ll talk to you all next time…